How to: Create Your Dream Life

You know one of the big things that I see getting in the way of my coaching clients creating brilliant lives?

The yehbuts.

In order to create a life that is better than you’d ever imagined, it is often necessary to look beyond the realms of the what-seems-possible, to dream. Just for a while.

The thing is, lots of lovely folk get stuck in reality; they never get any further. And that’s a pity because, in my professional experience, what is possible is often far more expansive than we initially imagine.

This is what tends to happen.

A client will say to me: you know, I’d like to drop work down to four days a week. Or maybe three.

Then they pause, and add [usually in hushed tones]: actually, my absolute dream is to work two days a week, and spend the rest of the week surfing. 

And then immediately, they follow up with: yehbut my boss would never agree. Or: yehbut I have to pay the mortgage. Or: yehbut what would people think?!

[Or something along those lines, you get the picture].

And if I was to leave it there, the dream would get lost. The ideal life would never even have a chance of getting off the ground, because it was never allowed to be entertained.

If you’re committed to designing and creating a brilliant life, one you really [really] want to live, I would suggest this:

• Start by dreaming. Hold off on the yehbuts, just for a little while
• Make a list of all the aspects of life you would really like to see a reality
• Put the list aside then revisit it, a couple of days later
• Ask yourself: what it is about those points that appeals? Then use that insight to create your List of Needs. [So, for example if you want to spend five days a week surfing, maybe it’s not so much the surfing that grabs you but more the being outside, the feeling healthy and the sense of autonomy].
• Then [and only then] start to think about how those refined needs might be met, in your real and very possible world.

Tags: life-coaching, Melbourne