Real vs Ideal

Sometimes when real life doesn’t feel all that great, it can be difficult to know exactly what to change, or even where to start.

If this is you, right now, if you’re stuck, if you know things aren’t how you’d ideally like them to be but you just can’t work out what to shift or how, you might like to try this: a simple [and slightly bleak] activity that is sure to help.

First: write an obituary for the life you’re living now. A short, half-pager is all you need but it is critical that you actually write it down.

Next: write an obituary for the life you would love to live. Again, a half-pager is more than enough but it must be written down.

Put them both aside.

Then: after a couple of days come back to your writing and place the two pieces side by side. Notice the differences between them and write those differences down. [It might be: more travel, reading in the bath, kinder to myself, started a business, created a product that helped people, worked in Brazil].

Finally: beside each difference write three things [one item for this week, one item for this month, one item for the next 90 days] that you could actually do to start making aspects of your ideal life happen. Put completion-dates beside each action, create a feedback mechanism to track your progress and then…get started.

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[One note on this activity: for it to be effective, you actually have to do it. Not just read about it on a blog…]

Enjoy, lovely people!

Tags: life-coaching, Melbourne