What will they think?

A barrier that tends to hold people back from making bold, brilliant change is the fear of what others might think.

Sound familiar?

If that concern is holding you back, here are some simple steps to get you moving.

+ Chunk it down

Often when someone is worried about others’ judgment, they’re really, actually, worried about the thoughts of a select few. Maybe their parents or partner or best friend or colleagues. Who are you really worried about?

+ Get clear

It is important to get clear on what it is you’re worried other people will think. Narrow it down to a sentence:

• I am worried my partner will think I’m selfish
• I’m worried my mum will think I’ve let her down
• I’m worried my friends will say I’m a bad mum
• I’m worried my colleagues will say I’ll fail

+ Examine

Now examine those thoughts a little more closely. Will those people actually think those things? And if they do, is that important enough to hold you back from doing what you value? Maybe your concerns actually represent your fears? If so, what can you do to address them so that they don’t get in your way? What are your own expectations, for yourself?

A statement like ‘I’m scared what everyone will say’ justifies inaction and so keeps you safe. But the thing is: it also keeps you contained, distanced from the life or career you really want. Examining the statement, addressing the fear and establishing your own standards for action can help.

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