What’s Working Well?

Some people come to a coach because they want a huge, big Life Overhaul.

Others come because they’re after just a small tweak.

If that’s you, if you’re thinking that a few slight shifts are what’s needed, I’m here to help. In fact, this post could make all the difference. You might not even ever need an appointment. I might be making my services redundant. [Hang on, what?!]

So, here it is:

You’re obviously doing something right. In fact, you’re obviously doing a lot right because life is generally great. So instead of looking for the problems and trying to fix them, why not look for what is working well, and aim to build more of that in?

[For all the bike-rider/skier folk out there (ie. Not Me) this thinking is along the lines of: don’t look at where you don’t want to go (the ditch/cliff) because you’ll go there. Set your sights on where you are headed.]

Try making a list of the areas in which you’d like to see some slight improvement. It could be: writing more and eating food that makes your body feel great. Then instead of looking at the problems and the barriers and wondering how to remove them, try looking at what really is helping you function effectively already. It might be that you write well in the mornings and ordering fresh, market food online really boosts your veggie intake.

So then you aim to get one more morning of writing in [set your alarm every Sunday for 5am and write with a beautiful cup of tea before the house gets up]. And you plan to always have delicious food in the house [book in non-negotiable time on a Monday night for online veggie ordering].

We’re often encouraged to think that there’s something wrong with us, that we need fixing. But a gentler view – trusting that we’re ok and that we have the capacity to do more of what makes us (already) great can yield great, long-term shifts.

Tags: choices, goals, happiness, kindness, trust